倾听幸福的心声

I am so NOT a Mandarin reader.

Don’t ask me why I bought this book. Chanced upon it after church today, and surprised that I could read about 80% of the words in the first 2 pages. Plus, it’s a book about listening – one of my favourite topics.

Crazy huh?

Well, on the way back I figured – there’s online dictionary…

Let’s see how this goes… 😉

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The Author – 吴若权 Eric Wu

This particular book is his 89th published work, according to the intro. Dedicated to his father, who taught him important lessons about listening.

In the very first page, Eric describes how his hearing-impaired father role modelled listening – listening with eyes, heart, humility, respect and patience. Of course my feeble English translation does the extract below gross injustice; so if you can read and understand Mandarin, savour the paragraphs below 🙂

从小就在亲友口里知道父亲“重听”,也就是所谓的“听障”。但是, 在我的观察里,在战乱中逃难时听力受损的父亲,并没因为听力不好,而形成人际关系上的障碍。甚至,因为他知道自己耳力不好,更谦虚而专注地倾听。除了细心留意对方的唇型,神情和肢体动作这些细节之外,他也会尽量面带微笑,重复一次对方的话,或立刻用纸笔记下,确认彼此的沟通没有误解。

依我来看,“重听”两字,对父亲而言,根本不是“重度听障”,而是“重视倾听”。他因此而更懂礼让,更守纪律,更重承诺, 成为子女最好的身教。

父亲的细心体贴,不但为他带来好人缘,也让我们的亲子关系更为融洽。

印象中,无论犯了什么错, 他从来没有对我吼骂过,反而是我在年轻气盛的时候,曾经因为自己不耐烦解释清楚事情,而对他大声说过话。听力不好的他,总是认真倾听。即使在我最落魄的求学阶段,依然让我感觉被爱与尊重。长大之后,也因此而能够更加同理,体贴别人。

大概就是受到成长经验所影响,在我心目中,生里的听障,拉近了人与人的距离;反而是心理的听障,比较容易造成人际之间难以跨越的鸿沟隔阂。

 

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2 comments

  1. Hi Carol!

    I had no idea I still could read/write Chinese either! :p

    Yes, thanks to our bilingual system. I also had a neighbour who gave me after-school hours tuition in the language, and she had a great way of teaching it using stories and ancient-day poems. Much credit goes to her for making the Chinese language something to embrace rather than be fearful of.

    Well, let’s see how far I get with this book :p

    W

  2. Carol

    Dear Wendy,
    Kudos to you on the success of this blog of yours!
    I had NO idea that you could read/write chinese-guess it’s all part of your schooling over there in Singapore.
    Bravo!!

    Keep it up-you know that the world needs more with your many hidden talents!

    Peace,
    Carol
    XOXO

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